Tannhauser “utterly and comprehensively destroyed the ‘Loving Father-God’ archetype”
An archetype, among other things, represents the psychological energy behind the symbol. I note you lump Love, God and Father into one archetypal image which may have gotten in your way.

Is it possible that when words like Father are connected to the experience of God that they are intended to be transparent to the transcendent, pointing to more than a reward and punishment theology.

Is it possible that it was right that your expectation of your Father-God image be destroyed, not out of bitterness, but as a door to growth?