Dear Wendy:

You are welcome and thank you for your kind acknowledgment of my participation here.

You provided a couple more details in your last post: that you overhead about your bf’s friend’s negatively criticism of you dancing “in a big group gathering,” and that your boyfriend was “laughing along with him.”

This is unfortunate- indeed your boyfriend did not stick up for you (the title of your thread). Not only did he not stick up for you, he sided with his friend who acted against you by gossiping about your dancing (to a group of people).

There is incongruence, lack of integrity in your boyfriend’s behavior: on one hand he encouraged you to do what you love “regardless of what others say” and is ” super-aggressive and outspoken otherwise if he perceives even the slightest threat or judgement to his way of life” (original post) and on the other hand he sides with a person who is in affect threatening your way of life.

Hope you post again.

anita