Anita – I am not sure I am interested in promoting my wife’s happiness anymore but her unhappy performances have a bad influence on me and cause me great emotional turmoil so it is the negative side of her behaviour that I have become conditioned to avoid through the brainwashing by her abusive behaviour. As regards your question about intimate moments, there haven’t been any for decades. We have slept in separate rooms for around 25 years and there has been no physical intimacy for over 30 years. I don’t like being around her and do not like her touching me. I am repulsed by the thought of physical contact with her. In the early days of the marriage she exhibited so much verbal and psychological aggression, which was a big turn-off for me. The marriage was dead in that respect right from the beginning. Around 20 years ago she asked me if I was gay, which I am not. She concluded that I wasn’t much interested in sex, which is not at all the case. Just not interested in her in that respect.