Dear Anita,

Thank you for your kind support and empathy, not just with me but with many others in this website. You’re blessed.

Back to my story, I agree with you regarding forgiveness. I already forgave my father the first time three years ago, but now after he admitted he has a secret bank account with $500,000 I simply can’t just go blind again. Its impossible and out-of-question. It would be self-destruction and even weakness of me. My money is out there and I can’t get it. No forgiveness, but I wish I could just forget it and wipe it off my mind! Not even that possible!

The problem is: legal actions is impossible for me. Yes he is my father and yes he taken my money to his own benefits, but to take legal actions against him is a red-line. Honestly I thought about it for sometime but I came to the concultion that it would do more harm than good. He might die from the shock and sadness alone, and everyone will put it on my shoulders.

I am thinking about confrontation! To show him that I know everything. That is my main go-plan for now, but even that plan may go badly for both me and him. Why? Because of our damn middle-eastern culture — everyone will stand by my father side against me regardless of the facts simply because he is the father and I am the son.. Its very common here to hear the words: (“Come on, he is your father for God’s sake; don’t you have morals? he is the man who brought you to life and raised you as a child; he can anytime to you and you simply shut-up”)!! Even my father know that he is happily assured of his safety, thanks to our environment and culture.

Yet, my major concern is, even if I go BIG and get my money back that would not get me my loving father back anyway.. I lost him already, and he will loose me too. Ass of me and because of my hurt right now I can say with absoule certainty: I DON’T CARE.. I don’t care what my father would think, and I don’t care what the people would think — But I very much care for my mother, brothers and sisters feelings and well-being. I am already avoiding and limiting contact with my father but I don’t see a way of cutting contact completely without losing the whole family too. It is a terrible situation.

What do you think Anita?
Thank you.