Dear XenopusTex:

It is a good thing the woman, the mother of a young daughter, is not available to date you. I strongly believe it will be very wrong for you to be involved in parenting a child, be it your natural child or one by marriage.

I would like you to have a loving relationship with a woman, only not with a woman who is also a mother to a minor child, or who intends to be one.

I state this because you believe that a child does not have a value. When you wrote that you believe children have potential value, that means, maybe they WILL have value later.

No, no, no: you are wrong, XenopusTex. You are still suffering from not having been valued as a child, just for being. You are still suffering… Please do not pass this suffering on. You told the story that your grandfather called you “worthless” the very last time you saw him. Remember?

Don’t pass this legacy on to another child.

At this point, you are breaking my heart, XenopusTex. I mean it: the coldness in your heart, for yourself and for others- I can feel it, that ice.

Write me more, I need some time to recover.

anita