Hi Pink24,

OMG! Your story is just a copy of mine with little differences! I also cut off all ties with my father two years ago but only for a short time. I went to India for business/study for just 3 months and never called my father and the whole family during that period ever, for the first time ever. I disconnected myself completely. It wasn’t something easy or normal for me and them since whenever and wherever I travel I used to call them every week just to say hi and salaam alykom. But I was very angry with my father again (due to other issues, not the major story I wrote above). When I came back home 3 months later I confronted my father about those issues and also told his mother, my grandmother, about how badly he was treating me. Fortunately, my grandmother stood by my side against my father and actually got very angry with him; she even told him something bold like (if you don’t treat your son right, you’re not my son anymore)! It was big, and my father shocked and apologized to me, and I agreed to open a new page with him after I laid down rules to govern our relationships (Dos and Don’ts — just like children). Yet, like in your own story Pink, trust issues came up again shortly after that day, and I thought, well, nothing changed or will ever change with my father.

Its difficult with our society and families and I totally agree with your words: “This world is tough enough without such difficulties”.

Anyway, good for you that you ended it smoothly and smartly yet also made yourself available for them if they ever need you. That’s beautiful. I wonder like crazy if I could do the same!

Thank you Pink. Your words were indeed helpful.