Dear Sarah:

This relationship with him, like any relationship in your life, needs be a Win-Win deal. If he repeatedly brings you down (your last line)- then it is a Lose for you.

You make good observations: he was busy before but had time for you, so why is being busy now a reason to not have time for you?- good question. His business is going to the gym and having relatives living with him while before, being busy was studying.

Maybe…studying was a lonely kind of busy-ness- he studied alone, he and the subject-matter. You were a break from the lonely occupation of studying. Now he goes to the gym and interacts with people there. And he interacts with relatives at home. Now he is not lonely anymore. So he doesn’t need a break from loneliness.

What do you think?

anita