Dear XenopusTex:

A better choice for women?

At the very beginning of my communication with you I stressed the need to be selective as to who we associate with, who we attempt to have a relationship with, and to evaluate the person over time.

It is not a good policy to be empathetic to anyone and everyone at all times. It would be exhausting, for one. To be empathetic to a person who hurts you or is likely to hurt you is unnatural and against your self interest. In nature, that would translate to suicide.

So always evaluate, at the beginning and during: who is this person?

Thing is, you, XenopusTex, are inclined to think the worst of any person. That inclination is bound to be in your way, to cloud and distort your evaluation of the people who although are imperfect, are not bad people.

Back to your question, I will modify it then: What would be a better choice for a good woman (one who is empathetic to you, kind to you, honest with you, reliable and trustworthy, and otherwise imperfect)?

A better choice for her would be a man who is empathetic to her, kind to her, honest with her, reliable and trustworthy, although otherwise imperfect.

Oh, I forgot, the value topic: got to value the woman you get involved with; if you don’t value her, don’t get involved with her at all. And the value needs to be not for her occupation but for her empathy, kindness, honesty, reliability and trustworthiness.

anita