Dear jock:

Maybe you can say to her right after she touched you: “You just touched me. For future reference, don’t do it again.” You don’t use the legal word “harass” but plenty assertive nonetheless.

I like your post on the other thread, hope it is okay to copy this sentence from that other post:

“being ourselves may not get us the rewards of others’ worship but it will contribute to something less obvious, our integrity and self-respect.”

To connect this quote to this thread: being yourself, jock, protecting your integrity and self respect would include being appropriately assertive regarding not being touched or barked at in the work place!

anita