Hi Charlie,

For Him:

Tell him that This is what Holidays are for. God created Easter, Thanksgiving and Christmas for us to put up with dysfunctional family members “because they’re family”. When she writes him a sappy letter he should reply, “Great to hear from you! See you at Thanksgiving!” When he sees her in person, unless it’s to carve a turkey, he should say, “Great to see you! Got to go!” If he doesn’t see her on holidays? He can visit her three times a year ~ anyone’s limit for extended family. This is how he can practice boundaries.

For You:

Don’t feed the dysfunction. Tell him what you told us, or even show him this post. Only do this once. Then tell him that it disturbs you so much you don’t even want to hear her or talk about her. By withdrawing your support, when he is with you, he will only live in normal reality. He will see for himself which reality he prefers.

Blessings,

Inky