Dear Leanne:

You made it- you brightened up my day and you brought a smile to my face for the first time today (9:30 am here).

You asked for advice, so here is my advice:

Connect with the little girl in you who wanted to be (a parent’s?) favorite, who wanted that person’s face to light up when she/he saw you. Connect with that little girl who was sad because she was not special in that person’s heart and who was jealous when she saw that person light up for someone ELSE! “Why not me?” she thought, greatly distressed.

Connecting to that little girl who is still in you, and feeling empathy for her (all this is a process that takes time, preferably in therapy with a competent, empathetic therapist) will loosen up your current sadness and jealousy.

Would you like to share about that little girl?

anita