People romanticize the past. Ever seen a place again that you haven’t been to in a long time? That “cozy” little studio apartment in the “historic” building on the “active” side of town turns into a cramped room in a partially collapsed building on the wrong side of the tracks when you get a chance to revisit it.

People hate to admit that they made mistakes. I couldn’t possibly have devoted “X” number of years to this steaming pile of feces in a vaguely humanoid shape, there has to be some redeeming quality there somewhere…

People think they can “fix” others. Well, you can, but it usually requires surgery or a “nut cracker” or Bob Barker [remember to spay and neuter] with some hedge clippers:) But, that’s another type of “fixing” I guess.

People think they did “something.” Well, unless you’re a Stygian Hag, Grendel’s maternal unit, or a gorgon, it’s probably not something you did. If you are one of those things, the chances are pretty good that your significant other is not around to complain about it.

People are afraid of losing what they have. They fear losing what they have more than they anticipate gaining something new.

People think they “need” something.

People have crappy self-confidence at times. Part of the thing that abusive people do is work on trying to destroy the self-confidence of their victims.

Question: Is getting beat to hell (assuming that’s the physical problem) worth whatever “benefit” you get out of the relationship?

Next question: Can you get that benefit elsewhere without getting beat to hell?

Final question: Why aren’t you doing this already?

There are lots of guys out there who don’t believe in beating the hell out of or emotionally abusing their significant others. There are lots of guys who believe in treating women with respect. My suggestion is to find one of these guys, and leave this particular male biped to his own devices.

Sorry for the somewhat snarky tone, I have no time or respect for men who abuse women.