I agree with Anita. Sacrificing your life is a bad plan.

I’m known for being somewhat forthcoming, here goes:

Whether you fall in love or don’t fall in love doesn’t affect your father’s medical condition. Well, let me back that up a moment… depending on his outlook, mindset, etc., a successful relationship might encourage recovery (if such is possible). You’d be amazed at what the human body can do if it has something to look forward to.

At 20, you still have time to figure out what direction you want your life to go. I’ve tried doing the dutiful child thing, and let me tell you, it s*cks.

We all do have death in our future, as far as sickness preceding death, not so sure on that; lot of ways to get your ticket punched that don’t involve protracted illnesses.

Not sure that I can recommend religion as a cure all. Don’t get me wrong, I will sometimes walk down to the local Catholic church to spend some quiet thinking time, and sometimes find myself coming up with answers to questions I pose. Whether that is a product of divine intervention or simply quiet time for the massively powerful subconscious mind to data crunch, I cannot say. Religions can be a great source of guilt complexes which really doesn’t help much at all.