Dear dom:

Is it possible for you to attend psychotherapy with a competent, empathetic therapist? Reads to me that you need that kind of help to process your feelings, to manage and heal your anxiety, to learn to endure distress without reacting abusively, to learn skills so to choose the behavior on your part that will help you and not harm you (and your boyfriend)?

Most important, at this point, is for you to not act abusively to your boyfriend, no matter how you feel. If you can’t do this, better end the relationship, or put it on hold as you learn in therapy how to not be abusive.

Will be back at the computer in twelve hours or so.

anita