thanks anita, i think most people lose their gender identity b/c of stereotypes they are exposed to or harsh criticisms from their family/peers. here is a quote: “it only affects you if you believe what they say, if you don’t believe then it doesn’t matter.” so i think that only you decide what choices and facts you will believe and leave the ones that don’t apply behind. but sometimes it can be hard to find what you believe and what has been instilled in you.