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  • #413697
    Janus
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    Dear Anita

    Most of those threads were written around 2015-2016, seven years ago. I think they’ve just faded out with time in replies. I feel like those threads were just posts in the moment when I was struggling with myself and now over the years I have been working on my mental health and have much clearer purpose. I really like the Forsythe wildlife refuge in galloway, nj close to stockton and they have summer internships this year so I’m thinking of applying.

    #413675
    Janus
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    Dear Anita

    The spacing went awry when I posted 😅

    I have been looking through the forums and the Tough Times tab forums have some lgbtq posts. I think that there’s some lgbtq mental health being brought to awareness on tiny buddha. I agree that it’s great talking with you on “Too Criticizing of Myself” forum but having a forum topic for lgbtq resources would be helpful.

    I couldn’t find any resources on how to change the forum title but if it could be changed I think ” Healing the Inner Critic and LGBTQ discovery journey ” would be a great title.

    I got diagnosed with gender dysphoria from a nurse practitioner in 2018 and talking to gender therapists and connecting with trans communities has been helping me.

    I think i’ll start a new thread on lgbtq resources. Hugs and thanks for your advice.

    I started posting a closing reflection on my forums seven years ago that are now pretty much inactive. Forums “Lost in Life,” “Overcoming Doubts and Fears,” “Dreams and Goals,” “Transgender and Gender Dysphoria,” and “Gender and Personal Identity.”

     

     

     

     

    #413674
    Janus
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    Dear Anita

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    I have been looking through the forums and the Tough Times tab forums have some lgbtq posts. I think that there’s some lgbtq mental health being brought to awareness on tiny buddha. I agree that it’s great talking with you on “Too Criticizing of Myself” forum but having a forum topic for lgbtq resources would be helpful.

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    I couldn’t find any resources on how to change the forum title but if it could be changed I think ” Healing the Inner Critic and LGBTQ discovery journey ” would be a great title.

     

    I got diagnosed with gender dysphoria from a nurse practitioner in 2018 and talking to gender therapists and connecting with trans communities has been helping me.

     

    I think i’ll start a new thread on lgbtq resources. Hugs and thanks for your advice.

     

    I started posting a closing reflection on my forums seven years ago that are now pretty much inactive. Forums “Lost in Life,” “Overcoming Doubts and Fears,” “Dreams and Goals,” “Transgender and Gender Dysphoria,” and “Gender and Personal Identity.”

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

     

    #413673
    Janus
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    wow seven years have passed since I last posted in this forum. My gender journey hasn’t been easy but I feel more clear about myself. Taking time to explore resources over the years, expressing myself as a guy and talking with a gender therapist helped me realize that I felt something that was missing had been found. I realized that I was much happier presenting as a guy, working on letting go of gender stereotypes. I got diagnosed with gender dysphoria in 2018 and gender therapist and counseling has been helping.

    #413672
    Janus
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    wow seven years have passed since the last post on this thread🥺

    In that span of time I’ve taken time to reassess my goals and myself. I love watching Dara Hoffman-Fox’s videos on “Asking a Gender Therapist. ” In my college years starting 2019 I started finding myself and letting go of trying to fit into the box of stereotypes. I joined the Transcendence group at Stockton and met some gender non-conforming people. I realized that I feel comfortable as a guy and spent time with a gender therapist over the years which has helped me build my self-love. I loved having Transcendence group people friends where I could be myself.

     

    #413671
    Janus
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    wow seven years have passed since I last posted on this thread 🥺

    I have definitely worked on letting go, healing and reconnecting with people that I love deeply building my confidence. It is better to tell them that you love them rather than wait until it’s too late. Even if they might not feel as you do, knowing love is better than not loving at all. Love makes the world more colorful and helps your soul’s light shine.

    Much love and healing hugs all

    #413670
    Janus
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    Wow seven years have passed since I posted in this topic🥺

    I went to a nurse practitioner in 2018 who helped me work on building my nutritional health. 2019-2020, I had nutritionists and counselors helping me work on workouts and meal plans. I think that 2022 and the start of 2023 being at stockton I’ve grown and healed lots from things.

     

    Hugs all, reminding you all that you’re special 🧡

    #413669
    Janus
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    Wow, reading over my post eight years have passed🥺

    I still struggle with building my self-confidence but taking little steps along the way.

    I got my reiki certificate in 2021 and my friend and I have been working on a wiccan site currently. We started it in 2018 and have been learning new things and editing things on the site.

    My parents and I still struggle to see eye-to-eye on many things and I’ve learned to be okay with it. I spent some time working on my mental health and have been establishing a daily meditation routine 😌

    I love being out in nature, learning about the plants and wildlife. Ecology and Pine Barrens courses were my favorite at Stockton. I have decided to pursue biology and environmental science with a career path working as a naturalist for the njdep or helping with environmental sustainability and resources for nj fisheries and wildlife.

    I feel like I have a better sense of purpose in my life.

     

    #413583
    Janus
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    Dear Anita

    I found some resources for people in the LGBT community that is accessible no matter where you are:

    Human Rights Campaign:

    https://www.hrc.org/resources/coming-out

    Trevor Project:

    https://www.thetrevorproject.org/resources/article/resources-for-international-lgbtq-youth/

    LGBTQ Resources List:

    https://www.glaad.org/resourcelist

    Connect Safely LGBTQ Resources:

    LGBTQ Resources

    LGBTQ Planned Parenthood:

    https://www.plannedparenthood.org/learn/teens/lgbtq/info-and-resources-lgbtq-teens-and-allies

    International Resources from UK:

    https://www.stonewall.org.uk/our-work/international/international-resources

     

    #413581
    Janus
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    Dear Anita

    Another interesting article ” ‘Even If You Go to the Skies, We’ll Find You’ – LGBT People in Afghanistan After the Taliban Takeover. ” from human rights watch where they interviewed 60 LGBT Afghans from Oct. 2021 to December 2021. Many LGBT people were assaulted and threatened in Afghanistan. Life in Afghanistan before Taliban takeover wasn’t easy for LGBT people either,  in 2018 the government passed a law that criminalized same-sex marriage.

    Under the Taliban same-sex relationships have gotten more extreme with punishments.

    The Taliban declares “For homosexuals, there can only be two punishments: either stoning, or he must stand behind a wall that will fall down on him.”

    I do hope that LGBT people in places like African countries, Middle East and some parts of Europe like Poland and Hungary find refuge and safe spaces. Asia doesn’t really acknowledge LGBT people, there are many trans people whose families don’t accept them and it’s very hard to get gender transitioning resources in Asian countries. The LGBT group in Beijing was created in 1990 but it still has a long way to go before helping people receive equal rights.

     

     

     

     

    #413580
    Janus
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    Dear Anita

    I was reading “How LGBTQI+ Groups in Zimbabwe Fight for Change and the Right to Political Participation” on how activists are campaigning for equality.

    Mojalifa Ndlovu is an openly gay man who travels 250 miles to attend Gays and Lesbians Association of Zimbabwe (GALZ) to discuss the rights of LGBTQI+ people. The coalition provides a safe space for individuals to meet.

    Mojalifa has experienced threats like having unknown cars following him home. And I Zimbabwe same-sex relationships are not allowed.

    He is an outspoken activist for LGBTQI+ rights stating “To achieve meaningful and lasting change, we believe first in harnessing individual and collective self-determination, voice, agency, and empowerment of marginalized, vulnerable, and key populations. We believe it is when they are empowered, they are capable of challenging and redressing the deep-rooted inequalities and inequities that predispose them to multiple vulnerabilities.

    By providing safe spaces where LGBTQI+ people can gather and talk about things can provide a sense of mental health support and acceptance. It takes a small amount of individuals to change the world and no matter how difficult it may seem there is always light in the darkness. One candle can make the darkness brighter.

    If a person who identifies as LGBTQI+  is in a place where they might not be safe, there are resources out there for them.

    #413460
    Janus
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    Dear Wittly

    I like your practicing self-compassion tips.

    I tend to beat myself up sometimes and taking a break to be mindful allowing myself to relax and remind myself that I’m okay helps.

     

    #413459
    Janus
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    Dear Wittly

    Thanks for sharing your self-care tips article.

    I have an inner critic that I’m still working on healing things from. Taking time for self-care and not overworking, acknowledging the feelings helps us heal. Hugs.

    #413458
    Janus
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    Dear Anita

    Thanks for sharing the thread Urgent: I have a Crush on my female Boss. Is she into me?” 

    I like the news resources you shared in the forum about LGBTQ+ people and safety. I feel that it takes a small group of individuals to change the world one step at a time. But it can still be difficult in places like Islamic Middle East with Sharia laws that forbid LGBTQ+ people and countries in Africa. Safety is very important. There have been many LGBTQ+ people who have had private relationships in places where there’s persecution. Although hiding who they are can be hard at times, sometimes it’s good to protect ourselves. Maybe with time people in countries that forbid LGBTQ+ people can seek asylum in other accepting countries.

    #413457
    Janus
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    Dear Swanky

    There are 69 countries where it’s illegal to identify as LGBTQ+ (Thanks Anita for sharing the resources). If you are in a country where you might be fired from your workplace, face discrimination or might experience physical harm then it’s important to think safety first. I agree with Anita on her advice about maybe sometime at lunch asking your Boss what she thinks about same-sex relationships. I would approach things slowly like you said becoming good friends with her and getting to know each other better. LGBTQ+ people do not choose who they love or how they identify, they just are and they’re valid for it.

    Going off what Helcat said about having control in relationships, I believe that people do have control in how they act in relationships. LGBTQ+ people do not have choices on who they love or how they identify and it’s okay and valid for you to have feelings for your Boss who is female. But you have control over your actions so it’s important that you keep things indiscreet because if rumors start in the workplace it could be detrimental to your safety. Maybe get to know each other better, if you like her personality and feel you two truly connect maybe invite her to a place where it’s safe to talk about things.

     

     

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