Dear blkhwkdwn1:

I understand not wanting to post a photo of the mug and that is okay with me. I am pleased that you thought of doing it. You can add a poem, if you want with the theme of her being sweet, but nothing too syrupy, not too sweet. Just a bit sweet. So it goes with the mug and the honey. What if you have coffee with her before Christmas and give her the mug, honey (and maybe poem) then? Don’t know if it is a good idea, just thinking.

you wrote that you don’t know if you are going “to do what she wants and get into therapy, or visit the doctor, or take meds”- no, no, no, says I- you are your own man! You decide if you have a beard or not, if you attend therapy or not, and if you take meds or not. I am all for therapy and no meds (except for emergency, short term), but these are your choices.

If you do go for the poem, you can post your literary effort here (without writing her real name).

anita