Dear heartache:

You can overcome this grief- you have the strength. It feels so bad, but you will survive this feeling. Not only will you survive this feeling, but the feeling will change. You will feel better, it is only a matter of time, before you feel better.

You wrote that you know the relationship was bad for you but you still feel a strong emotional attachment to him. When we feel strong emotional attachment to someone, we feel pain when we are no longer with someone. And it doesn’t matter who that someone is, good or bad for us: for as long as we feel that attachment, it is hard to let go.

Take care of yourself during this time of grieving the hopes you had that he will change, that he will finally be there for you the way you need him to be. Be kind to yourself- take a hot bath, take a long walk outdoors, watch a good movie. Give the grieving time, and post here anytime.

anita