Dear Cali Chica:

You feel guilty in regard to your mother- that is unjustified guilt. Justified guilt is over hurting yourself and your fiancé, as well as your future children, who will suffer for the suffering your mother is and will be causing their parents (you and your fiancé).

You don’t have a mother; you have an enemy.

She phrased it that way multiple times. Again: you do not have a mother; you have an enemy.

Stop trying to please the enemy- do what needs to be done when faced with an active enemy- withdraw from the war, and that means, in your circumstances, nothing short of zero contact, no contact whatsoever.

anita