Dear Niki:

You wrote: “I want love and a family. But I lost on everything. I just feel that I will live like this, failing everything and settling for less…”

I think you are misunderstanding something important: you did not fail in this relationship. You loved him throughout; you sacrificed for him, you kept your word to him; you were loyal to him, throughout the years.

Another misunderstanding: it seems to me like you think that he was a great man and now that he is gone, you will have to settle for a man less than him. He was not a great man. he didn’t keep his word to you; he was not loyal to you, he was disloyal and dishonest where it mattered. He only appeared as loving as he appeared, but when it comes to taking a stand, he did not.

It is my hope that you will find a man better than him, that you will not settle for a man… like him.

If you correct your view- that you failed and that you lost a wonderful, loving, high quality man- then you will understand that you are not a failure and failure is not to follow you wherever you go and whatever you choose to do.

anita