Dear Nan:

You wrote above: “Man (aka “R-1″, from previous threads) cannot get out of his marriage.” But in previous threads you wrote that he was already divorced. Why do you keep stating he is divorced when he is not?

My answer to your question: no, I don’t think so.

If you are okay living with husband, aka R-2, then live with him. Don’t leave for R-2. If you are not okay living with R-2, if it is degrading to you, dehumanizing, depressing, then leave R-2.

The thing is, this doesn’t seem like that love story you were hoping for. If you expected that reuniting with your first husband, R-1, will bring a happily-ever-after life for you, I don’t see it.

R-1 treats you nicely, respectfully, unlike R-2, but his life is unsettled, is too much of a mess, has been a mess for a long time, with no end in sight. I am sorry.

anita