Hi there guys,

This is reminiscent of how I have felt for 5 years against my child’s mother. She hurt my badly and did things that can never be undone. It’s the tread I just commented on before this one.

Like the original poster said about their MIL, I too have always reminded my ex of what she did and how much I was affected by it. I have of course promised many times that I will never bring it up again, only to eventually kick it up again at some point.

It’s like I want her to always feel bad for what she did, and never be able to forget it. Because I’ll never forget it and will always feel hurt I don’t want her to get off with not feeling bad about that.

Things have got better and I’m not as angry no more, but it’s still there deep inside.

I know it seems insane to keep bringing it up to the injurer every now and again, but the reason we do it is because we are hurting, that we need to try and hurt them too even if it is just emotionally.

Which is not as bad as what some alternatives could be.