Thank you for your reply Anita.

No need to argue the point, it is your opinion and you’re entitled to that of course. I am just doing what’s best for my children, as a mother I put my needs last. I don’t even want to see my mother so I have no desire to cling onto her or the relationship, and that is why I will let my husband take the children to see my mother away from the home. If the children didn’t ask to see her or tell me they missed her then it would be far easier to cut the contact but as I said I am doing what they want and that means putting what I want last.

They will have a healthy mother once my medication is at the correct dose for my thyroid and this year I am making sure I don’t subject myself to family contact that I don’t feel is right for me, but I shall allow the children to see my mother if they wish to. They are all older so it’s not as black and white as cutting that contact as they’d contact her themselves and arrange to meet her, with them having their own phones and she also calls them.

I may feel less energy crashes and less anxiety not seeing my mother but the thyroid illness is a separate issue. Hopefully me seeing my mother much less will have a positive impact and I will be far happier. If they wish to see my mother then they of course can, I won’t stop that and as I said it would be difficult to do.

Thank you for your time.

Take care

Julie