Dear humour:

Remember the lion/ tiger vs the wolf analogy? Maybe you want t be reborn as a wolf, no longer performing in the circus?

The “people pleasing” behaviors is performing in the circus, hoping to be liked by the audience (other people, coworkers); even when you try to meet your own expectations, those expectations may be your parents’ expectations of you from long ago, and you are trying to please them, performing in the circus for them to like you.

Maybe wake up every day with the goal of being that wolf and every time you notice you are being a tiger, switch into a wolf mode. It may be helpful for you to make two lists, for this purpose:

1. List tiger behaviors (performing in the circus).
2. List wolf behaviors.

anita