There is a saying that goes “We’re not what we think we are. We’re not what others think we are. We are what we think others think we are.” We find our identity in relationships with other people. That’s why people tend to be different with friends versus family. When we fall in love with someone we inadvertently identify ourselves in the eyes of others. When those relationships end our identity dissolves and we become lost. This is why breakups are so painful. So no matter how many times you will be reminding yourself of these things while you’re happy and with someone, you will be in the same pain if you were to breakup again. Unfortunately, that’s human nature. If there is anything i can suggest it is to not put all of your eggs in the same basket. Diversify yourself. You are all you have, so cherish the time alone with yourself. Invest in yourself and your character, so your identity remains when the other person may not. 🙂
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