Dear Rebecca:

I see the behavior of the weekend co worker that you described as subtle bullying: he is trying to make you feel bad and he succeeded- you are feeling dread working the weekends. I would treat it as any other bullying activity practiced by a bully, and that is to assert myself with him. Tell him you see what he is doing, trying to make you feel badly by purposefully excluding you. Best refer to the most recent behavior, right after he has done it. Say: I see what you just did, you said goodbye to everyone but not to me. I wish you didn’t try to hurt me, as you’ve been doing.

There may be a better way to assert yourself with his subtle bully, but asserting yourself somehow is a good idea, I believe.

anita