Hi julia9278,

God, I hate those people ~ they get to be utter narcissists, block you… and then proceed to hang out with your friends.

Listen, avoiding him and large social gatherings is good for now. BUT you WILL one day inadvertently run into him.

It might as well be on purpose. Don’t seek him out, merely live your life. When you know he’ll show up:

1. Before he shows up at A Gathering, say to your friends there, “Please help me deal with my crazy ex-bf”. (see what I did there?)

2. When he shows up, yell cheerfully “THERE’S the cheat! Hey, I thought I told you we are NOT getting back together!” and/or “Why are you here?” and/or “Stop following me!” He will stammer, explode or get uncomfortable. Stay silent, cross your arms, make eye contact with someone, and shake your head sadly while looking back at him and remain silent. It will get awkward. LET IT BE AWKWARD. He is counting on you not letting it be awkward. Let him linger in the awkward.

3. Tell your friends that you don’t want to hear about him or what he said about you. This will further let everyone know that you are not the crazy ex-gf and that maybe, just maybe, he’s the one with the problem.

Your friends will quickly learn not to invite him and he will quickly learn to stay out of your realm.

Good Luck!

Inky

• This reply was modified 7 years, 10 months ago by Inky.
• This reply was modified 7 years, 10 months ago by Inky.