Dear artfulapricot:

Clearly, you did read a lot, learned a lot in therapy and experienced a lot of healing. Part of my therapy was psycho-education. Your psycho-education is extensive.

I like your initiative to talk about him, as you did- what a brilliant idea and it worked out, congratulations!

Regarding outbursts, your outbursts that have been far in between, it is my experience with my husband (following many of my outbursts in the beginning of the marriage), that I cannot afford one additional outburst on my part, not one! One such will destroy a few years of hard work on my part, hard work that finally allowed him to feel as safe as he does with me currently. It is this feeling of safety that is necessary (not optional) for continuing individual healing for me and for him.

Hope you post again, would like to read how the relationship progresses, if you would like to share.

anita