Dear hannahl:

During the three months you were dating, you weren’t happy with him seeing you only twice a week and you felt it was wrong of him to make time during his week to meet with colleagues and other friends instead of meeting with you more often. During the last 2 months, in the context of LDR with him, you weren’t happy with the frequency and length of the contact he made with you, and you feel it is wrong for him to communicate with friends instead of with you.

Reads to me that he is indeed very busy, has been during the 3 months he was present in your life physically and he has been very busy during the last 2 months, working very hard and for long hours.

The fact that he met with colleagues and other friends in person and that he communicates with others online means that he derived pleasure from that, from interacting with other people. It didn’t mean that he didn’t love you or enjoyed being with you. Problem is, as you confronted him again and again, it made his communication with you unpleasant for him. I think this is why he suggested the break.

The two of you read to me like decent people. Problem is, because of the insecurity you mentioned and which is evident in your behavior, you need a boyfriend who is way more available for you, someone who is less friendly, has little interest in communicating with others; a man who works less, perhaps. Do you think you will be more compatible with a man like that?

anita