Dear artful apricot:

You wrote: “if I have a yearlong streak of drama-free, one bad day and he says ‘you always….”- I think this is so because as the animals that we are, biologically, products of evolution, when we perceive danger, we focus on it at the exclusion of anything else. I live in an area where you can see elks frequently enough. When I walk in a hearing distance from them, almost all of them stop doing whatever they were doing and they just stand there looking at me, not moving. They don’t eat, mate, mark their territory or do anything they normally do- they just watch (eerie experience). Same with humans- we are genetically and instinctively designed to be alert to danger first and foremost.

anita