Dear hannahl:

Be prepared then, that when you talk with him again, next time or the next, that you will fee distressed again, like you did before, and you will, in your mind, question him again- but this next time, instead of expressing your distress to him in the ways you did before- don’t, not if you want this relationship to improve and keep going.

Your interactions with him need to feel pleasant for him. As long as he is loving and decent to you, make the interactions pleasant for him – even when you are distressed. This is key: not every thought you have needs to be voiced, not every distress shared. When he does nothing wrong to you, don’t cause him distress over being a hard working and friendly person, these are not wrongs.

Wish you the best and post anytime.

anita