Dear pollypeeps17:

This is clearly a difficult time for you and I hope your life situation gets better for you. The fact that you live separately from your husband is a problem even if the relationship was excellent. There is a challenge in the living apart in itself, especially without easy access to each other (expensive taxi required).

And then, in addition to that, he goes out for drinks at night, into the late hours, with friends- that fits the behavior of (some) single men. It is not congruent with being married.

To top that, he told you he was having drinks with friends and his cousin. But the cousin told you later on that he didn’t see your husband for two weeks. What is the reason for the lie by either husband or cousin…?

In addition, you wrote, that when he is angry at you he gives you the silent treatment and he throws it in your face that you suffered PTSD, that you are mentally ill- these are abuses.

All these lead me to believe that maybe this marriage was or is a mistake..?

anita