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Kristina
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Hi There Dreaming…

There have been LOTS of great responses here already, and I echo what others have said. In order to truly experience love from another, you must love YOURSELF first and realize that happiness comes from within.

Sometimes this is a hard concept to grasp with so many external sources basically telling us that we are a “nobody” until we find “somebody.” Why not make that person YOURSELF?!?! It’s important to have a strong relationship with yourself so that you are clear on what works for you in or out of a relationship. This will also help you establish boundaries rather than settle for less than ideal treatment just for the sake of not being alone.

As I read your post, I observed a lot of negative self talk. It appears that a lot of energy has been put into “what if’s”. You’re already considering what will happen 7 years from now (incidentally, Halle Berry gave birth at 47 and Janet Jackson gave birth at 50) rather than focusing on the here and now.

It is vitally important that no one else can make you happy, and spending so much time focusing on “THEM” is detrimental to your well being.

I encourage you to take some time to consider why you feel that being single is so bad, and why being single now equals being single forever (quite a huge leap in extremes).

Today is a day for celebrating love. Start with you! Take YOURSELF out and don’t worry about what your friends are doing. Find something that makes YOU feel good and celebrate your own personal awesomeness.

The only thing you have to come to terms with is that YOU ARE AWESOME RIGHT NOW!!!!! Embrace it!

…and trust me, several of the married with children folks, though “happy”, may be thinking about how incredibly fortunate you are to have “YOU” time.

What needs to happen will happen when it’s supposed to happen. Breathe and go with the flow. You’re not even 30 yet. You have time….