Dear heartbrokengurl:

A lot of relationships are unhappy, mostly because of aggression. Your boyfriend initiated a lot of fights with you and you ended up walking on eggshells. When you meet a new candidate for a relationship, make sure he is a peaceful man, who unlike your ex boyfriend, will not pick fights with you. Make sure the two of you treat each other with respect at all times, and you will be having a wonderful relationship.

Can you imagine: fighting is not a necessary ingredient in a relationship? It isn’t. So, yes, successful relationships do exist where the two people in the relationship do not turn against each other, not at times, not ever. Disagreements? sure. Fighting- no, not at all required.

By the way, no contact with your ex seems like a good idea to me.

anita