Dear bricklady:

You are welcome. His fear of conflict is congruent with breaking up with you wanting no contact at all. Clearly, that was his way to avoid excess conflict in his life (“breaking up” with his older daughter was/is not an option for him (how old is she?)

And clearly, presenting conflicts to him, on your part, is not the wise thing to do as long as you are hoping for a relationship with him. Later on, peaceful resolution of conflict, that is something he needs so to resolve conflicts in the future.

anita