Dear katliebe:

You wrote: “I still love him dearly and he loves me back. But, he keeps drinking, smoking and partying, though less and says he’s trying to quit”- your first responsibility is to promote your safety and well being. You wrote that he already endangered those with his behavior.

You wrote: “I do not know if I should try to move on with my life…, or if I should wait and support him, even if I had to sacrifice opportunities and endure some heartache.”-

My answer: move on. If and when he stops these three behaviors (that endanger your safety and your well being), then maybe he can let you know, and maybe you will consider him as your boyfriend at a later date. Maybe.

anita