Dear lukesblues:

I don’t see any way that contacting your ex girlfriend will NOT be “a big mistake” if you value your current girlfriend and your relationship with her.

To look at your motivation in overly thinking about that ex girlfriend, it could be, like you suggested, I think, that her rejection of you triggered your father’s rejection of you, and you crave her acceptance like you crave/craved your father’s acceptance. Could it be?

anita