Dear zobyt07:

What happened? Here is what may have happened: “the few weeks prior to the breakup… we were clicking and getting serious”, so he introduced you to his mother and his mother disapproved, didn’t give him the thumb up.

He said: “I’m 32 and want to get married soon, so I’m wasting my time with you”- that could have meant: my mother said you are not a go and I am wasting my time with you.

and he said: “I’m just not excited by this and I feel like I should be excited.”- that could have meant: I need my mother to approve of me and my choices. I feel dead inside when she disapproves of me. Getting her approval excites me and she didn’t approve of you.

IF this is close to what happened then his mother determined you are not wife material for his son based on one very short visit. Your conclusion that what he said is evidence that “there is something inherently wrong with (you)” would be incorrect. His mother disapproval during short visit can not possibly be reliable/

What do you know about his relationship with his mother (if you care to get into that)?

anita