Dear heartbrokengurl/K:

I realized lately the reason why we remember the good in a broken relationship and not the bad- it is because in times of anxiety/ distress, like you being NOT in a relationship, we tend to remember what comforts us, what makes us feel safe, better. And what comforts us are the good memories, when we did experience safety and love with the ex. There is no comfort in the memories of fighting and walking on eggshells.

So, remember both- that would be true to reality and on one hand will provide you some comfort, and on the other, weaken your desire to get back with him, to have him back into your life.

anita