Dear Cheryl:

You are welcome, and thank you for your kind words.

You wrote: “…the last 10 years he is focusing on me only, he rejected many onsite offers because he don’t wants to leave me and also not fully concentrated on his career.”- his choices are HIS choices. He is responsible for having made them, not you.

I will give you an example: let’s say I am so moved by your thread that I want to help you more than just answering it. Let’s say I get the feeling that you live in … Australia (this is only an example). Next I sell all my possessions, buy an airplane ticket to Australia, fly there, and look for you. Next, I spend the next ten years of my life looking for you, traveling from place to place, suffering many hardships. Finally I find you. When I find you, I tell you: “you owe me for my airline ticket to Australia, for all my possessions that I sold, and for my ten years of hardship looking for you.”

My question for you, Cheryl, is: will I be correct in my claim? Will you owe me for any of the things I mentioned which I chose to do?

(Regarding the last part of your post, his wife, we can discuss it later).

Waiting for your answer.

anita