Dear Cheryl:

We all do things we regret, make poor choices. Lots of people are burdened with guilt. We have to endure the regret and the guilt. Don’t we all wish to NOT feel these very uncomfortable feelings, but we cannot wish them away, therefore we have to endure them. You already proved to yourself that you can endure pain, so extend that endurance to your guilt and regret.

You wrote that the  “guilt of being silent in the beginning is killing me”- it will not kill you. It just feels badly. But notice: if you feel guilty for being silent in the beginning, aren’t you feeling guilty for being silent now?

You may be guilty for being silent before, and today. But you will NOT be guilty if you are not silent in the future, that is, if you leave and will no longer live there.

You explained to him best you can all you could explain, and now, it is time for you to do what is right for you and for all involved, according to your understanding.

Till your next post-

anita