Dear Josh:

It doesn’t help that you are living in the same place you shared with her. I hope you do get a good roommate, as you mentioned, and that it will make a good difference for you.

Reads to me that there is nothing for you to do: she has a new boyfriend. And she was consistent and adamant in her desire to end the relationship and her follow up on it.

The emotional attachment you feel, that will weaken, over time, especially as you get involved in a new relationship.

Your relationships with your ex’s family, particularly her parents, were better than her own relationships with them. In their relationship with you, they were probably trying to make up for the lack they have with her. Her strong fear of confrontation (and therefore, her resorting to texting for major life decision, as well as non-assertiveness with you), is most likely a result of growing up in a home where there were loud fights OR a tangible tension in the air day in and day out.
Therefore, the lack of fighting with her did not mean peace, it only meant avoiding confrontation. She was unhappy for a long time, most likely, before you found out. In your next relationship, focus on the woman, not on her family. Be her Best-Friend (really), not her family’s unofficial adopted son.
Hope you heal soon enough from this breakup and move on to a better, loving, lasting, enduring relationship, when you are ready.

anita