Dear Jeff:

Actually, I think what happened is an excellent thing: she is assertive with you and that is healthy on her part. After all, you do need a healthy partner in life. If she was passive, endlessly accommodating, building anger and distress inside of her- that would have been bad for her, for you and for the relationship.

Practice EAR with her: Empathy, Assertiveness and Respect. Reads to me that in your getting together last night and today, these three were practiced.

anita