Dear Cheryl:

You are welcome. You wrote in your last post: “consider I am truly happy by staying in their house”-

I cannot consider this because I do not believe it is possible for a woman to be happy having to ask permission for every move you make, all day, every day. Not having the freedom to move about as you choose. I don’t believe a person can be happy living under false pretense.

What I can consider is that you considered leaving that house and you got very, very scared. The thought of leaving was too much of a threat to your sense of survival, and so, you found much comfort, almost “happiness” in the thought of staying.

When leaving feels life-threatening, then staying feels like safety. This safe/ happy feeling will last until the fear dissolves.

You are scared, Cheryl, and I am not there to take your hand and walk you out of that house, then lead you to your own new home, help you settle, live there with you or visit you regularly, being a comfort to you, someone to talk to, someone to help you along. These words I am typing cannot hold you hand.

Therefore, my support- for which you thanked me- is very limited.

anita