Dear Andreea Maria:

Some people are not loving people, not because you did something wrong, or because you are not a lovable person, deserving of love. Think of yourself in a desert, thirsty, needing water. To your right there is a rock. You keep beating it with a stick, hoping it will give you water.

On your left there is a stream of water, but you can’t see it because your eyes are on the rock. You can’t hear the stream of water, because all you are hearing is the sound of the stick beating on the rock.

The rock, figuratively, is not giving you water, not because you are not deserving of water, but because it is a rock.

Does it make sense to you?

anita