Dear Caroline:

If a man said he wanted a relationship with me and refused to go out on dates with me, I would be very unhappy with that man. I wouldn’t like to accommodate him in my home, and I wouldn’t!

I am curious as to why he didn’t want to go out with you. He told you that it was because he was overweight, but that may be an excuse, isn’t it? And if so, what may be his real reason?

I am curious about why you weren’t in a relationship for 13 years (22-35)?

And then, why did you decide to have a relationship with a man who will not go out with you at all?

anita