Dear Azouz:

You are welcome and I do hope you end this relationship. A good part of your anger is because, I believe, you weren’t true to yourself in this relationship. When you feel clubbing or swimming at night with others is immoral, and then you tolerate it in your girlfriend, you are being untrue to yourself.

It doesn’t matter how she views clubbing or swimming at night with others, it doesn’t matter how I view it and how others do. As long as you view it as wrong, as long as you have strong negative feelings about it, it is – it is your right to choose a girlfriend who does not display these behaviors.

It would be a woman’s right to go clubbing or swimming at night, but it is your right to not have this woman in your life as your girlfriend.

anita