Dear Azouz:

Most of the interactions with her were long distance. You met her in person this last January- was that for the first time?

Part of your attitude toward her is fitting a parent toward a child, and this is why she asked you permission to go clubbing. You took on a parental role. Although later, at  least in January of this year, if not before, you were sexually intimate with her, in person.

You view her alternatively as an innocent child and as wicked. You feel angry at the wicked image of her, the one clubbing, swimming at night with others present.

I was wondering about your relationship with your mother. She is much younger than your father, and throughout your childhood they did not live together. Did your mother see other men? How do you view your mother: innocent, wicked or both?

anita