Dear Anna Smith:

I believe that in the great majority of the millions and millions of people diagnosed (or qualify the diagnosis) of major depression, their depression is not independent of their lives. It is not a foreign element, like a virus, attacking their system. Your ex boyfriend, there is planning in his depression- incongruent with a sudden, independent, viral-like attack.

When he broke up with you, he told you that he wants  “wants to set (you) free”- what if he wants to set himself free? He told you that he “needs to be alone to figure himself out”- what if he already figured himself out and planned for a while to break up with you?

What if the mindset that made it possible for him to separate the material assets a week after the breakup did not happen a week after, but before…

Did you notice any dishonesty on his part before? Self serving behavior with other people?

anita