Dear jayJay:

You are welcome. Reads to me that there is nothing you need to do, or should do.

Your thinking about seeing them again, and how you would react is almost an obsession. I am familiar with obsessions (diagnosed OCD)-

here is what I suggest: decide what it is that you will do if and when you see any one of them, or both (I vote for ignoring them, walking away, saying nothing to them, not answering if they talk to you- no communication ever).

And then when the thought return, say to yourself: “I already decided what to do. This is not negotiable” and disengage from the obsession. You will be compelled, driven to engage in it, to yet again imagine the circumstances of seeing them again.. but resist engaging in it.

It will feel uncomfortable to resist the compulsion, but over time, it will get easier until you no longer obsess.

anita